A Fond Farewell

It is with great sadness that I watch the mighty ship OBG sail off into the sunset.  I intend to post what I would have posted @ OBG each month to this space.  What I've learned is that you are lifted up by the company you keep when you are all making a joyful racket together.  I don't use the word racket in a pejorative sense... oh no... I believe it is the rabel rousers, the squeaky wheels, the racket makers that pave the way for change.  I believe it is that cohort of folks that hold up the mirror and make us look at who we are as a society.  It is up to each individual to look into that mirror honestly and move forward and BE the people that are the peacemakers, and agents of change.  So here's to my Sisters and Brothers on the writing team @ OBG, here's to the Editors who kept it rolling and herded the cats, and here's to the readers... who gave us purpose!

Old Time Religion: Native Redux

This Native's spin, on an old classic.  My beliefs aren't a "religion" but the song is what it is, so I went with it!

Give me that old time religion
Give me that old time religion
Give me that old time religion
It's good enough for me

Sunrise: I offer up prayers

With tobacco in layers

For Earth’s state of affairs

It's good enough for me

I will drum, sing, and rattle

I will pray and be thankful

Yes, the forest is my chapel
It's good enough for me


Give me that old time religion
Give me that old time religion
Give me that old time religion
It's good enough for me

Smoky sage, sweetgrass and cedar

Brings forth spirits of the creatures

Yes, they are all my Teachers

It's good enough for me

The Sun, Moon and Elders
All the spirit realm dwellers
I embrace them as treasures
It's good enough for me

Give me that old time religion
Give me that old time religion
Give me that old time religion
It's good enough for me
 
When the sun is a-Westing
I give thanks for my blessings
to the Powers acquiescing
It's good enough for me

I will stand in my teachings

I will stand in my teachings
Give me that OLD TIME RELIGION
It's good enough for me!

Give me that OLD TIME RELIGION
Give me that OLD TIME RELIGION
Give me OLD TIME RELIGION
It's good enough for me!

What We Need

There are so many initiatives related to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender populations... and I think this is a very good thing.  However the fact that these exist is often perceived by people outside of the LGBT community to mean that we want or need something unique and special.  I haven't seen a single mission statement, program objective or proposal that seeks to elevate the LGBT population above others. It is all pretty simple really.  IMHO what we need is:

• First - what we don't need... is an intervention.  We don't need to be repaired, cured, re-oriented or any other such thing, thank you very much!
• The same respect that every human being deserves... to be regarded and treated with respect regarding who we are.  If who we are conflicts with your personal views, respect the rights of LGBT persons to be who we are and live authentic lives.
• The same legal status as our heterosexual peers - call it what you want, I'm not so worried about semantics.  If we would choose to enter into a legal partnership with another soul on life's path, we should have that option.
• To know that our sisters and brothers, have our backs, that they won't be a part of oppressive systems... that they will in fact treat us as deserving equals.  Not superiors, but not inferior either. To quote Aunt Eller in the musical Oklahoma! "I'm not saying that I'm better than anybody else... but I'll be danged if I aint just as good!"

Doesn't seem like too much to ask.

On Death & Dying

Each culture has its own practices, rituals and beliefs regarding death.  Many of them are essentially the same notion of something else beyond this earthly realm to which we move after we have departed our physical bodies.  In many Native American cultures this is referred to as "walking on", "walking through the Western Door" or "Westing."  I believe that there is more, that when a person dies, that their spirit walks through that Western Door to a better place.  I believe that there are reunions of those who have been separated.  I believe that the spirits of two-leggeds, four leggeds, one leggeds and no-leggeds all inhabit that place. I believe that being now only spiritual essence, that there is no more pain or handicap... that each beautiful soul is restored to its purest state and is as one with their Creator. I believe all of this, will all that I am.  But I also grieve at times... like today.  How does that work?  Well I guess in these moments I am in a selfish place, I need the people who I don't have the same kind of access to any more.  The loss of my Mom was devastating, I need to talk to her, I need her lessons and her wit and her way of cutting through the bullshit.  I need that... as part of my day.  When Cindy walked on, an incredible void was left behind in my life. She was a kind and compassionate person of very deep faith, who lived with great integrity. She looked her death in the eye and ultimately left it in the hands of her Creator. 

I know, that death, is a part of the circle of our lives.  It is part of the medicine wheel teachings... but I still have trouble with people who have lived honestly and with compassion for their fellow humans... suffering like that.

Dammit I MISS her! I miss her laugh, I miss her smile, I miss her voice... she always knew when I needed to hear from her... and the phone would ring.  That was a two-way street with us... we were always tuned in to each other's frequency. The hurt I feel today... is a selfish thing I guess, for I know Cindy is just fine, but I'm just NOT. I will never ever make sense of her experience.  I do not understand why she had to suffer as she did, and why she had to die as she did, when she did.  It is number one on my questions for God whenever I have the opportunity.  I KNOW we are not supposed to ask such things... but ya know that whole "where were you when I created the earth" thing just does NOT help me to understand.


  

Teaching... that's so GAY!

This is the story of "Tommy."  I will tell the story from "Tommy's" perspective as he told it to me.  

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I have this problem.  I am a teacher.... I LOVE teaching... it is my calling, it is my PASSION. In an age where so many people seem to be discontented with in their work. I LOVE MY JOB! So what's the problem?   Well you see, I'm gay.  I work in a school system in a traditionally minded community.   I love my kids, and I know that I make a difference in their lives.  Until recently this hasn't been a huge issue. I didn't like the fact that I was hiding my sexuality... but it wasn't causing conflict in my life. Then something happened to change all of that. I met Bill... and we fell in love.  We've been in this relationship for over a two years now, each day brings new joys and I am more fulfilled by our relationship than any I have ever had.  We understand one another and support one another in all things.  Bill owns his own business and has this amazing house and has asked me to move in with him. I am so excited,,, and conflicted.  Part of me wants to start packing NOW, but I am fearful that if I move in with Bill, our relationship will be discovered and I will be in danger of losing my job.  I've worked at my school for 8 years, have stellar reviews from my Principal, and am well regarded by my colleagues.  However, recently... our town had the opportunity to add protections to its municipal code to help prevent discrimination in housing and employment on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity, the fundamentalists came out in force spewing hatred and creating a very hostile climate for GLBT people and their allies in the community.  I am afraid that this climate has the potential to cost me my job if my sexuality were revealed. How much longer do I have to my life on hold?

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I too am a teacher, but I am blessed beyond measure to be in a setting where I can be out, and my sexuality does not endanger my job. Tommy's story is all too common, at least here in the midwest.  There is a fear of gay teachers, that I simply cannot understand, it follows no logic that I can identify.

The theory goes something like this: Since gays cannot have children biologically, recruitment of children to their cause, especially at a young age, is essential.

This creates an environment where LGBT individuals who work with children in any capacity are suspect.  Teachers are of particular interest as they spend extended time with children. Many people just assume that a gay teacher is stalking his male students, and lesbian teachers are intent on seducing their female students.  

Okay lets put that shoe on the other foot... shall we? Imagine a male heterosexual teacher, do people automatically assume that this teacher views his female students as sexual objects? Do people assume that heterosexual female teachers are stalking the little boys in their classroom?  No, of course not. So WHY when the teacher is not heterosexual do people make that assumption?

Teachers who are GLBT serve as positive role models... not only to GLBTQ students, but to the entire school community.   To students who identify as queer or questioning, seeing someone on the teaching staff that is gay can be very powerful and promote a positive sense of self. To heterosexual members of the school community, a gay teacher just might be the person that helps them deconstruct their stereotypes and challenge erroneous assumptions.

It is estimated that one teacher in ten has a sexual orientation other than heterosexual.  According to the 2000 census, there are 6.5 million teachers in the United States. If one teacher in ten is GLBT that makes 650,000 teachers whose lives and careers could be shattered by whole "gay teachers as recruiters" mentality. 

So... what are we... as forward thinking individuals going to do about it?

Times they are achangin...

I celebrate today! I celebrate the fact that after twenty-five years of deliberation, the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ELCA) Church Council has abolished its anti-gay policies, effective immediately. Of course I have to wonder WHY it took 25 years of deliberation to arrive at this place, but I celebrate nonetheless.  There are a great many denominations that have been discussing this for much longer and are not there yet.  I am not Lutheran, I'm not even exclusively Christian... but I do believe that this is a sign of hope. It is encouraging to see a Christian denomination conducting themselves in a Christ-like manner! I know... sounds like a no-brainer... but that is not always the case.  I'm not one to bash... just sayin'.  The fact that a major denomination like ELCA can take this step... is a very good thing.  But it IS only a step... I'll be interested to see how these policy changes translate into action, into affirmation and IN YOUR FACE inclusiveness in ELCA congregations in this country. 

Keepin' It Real...

That's Not All I Am!

Indian?

Too much for some…

Not enough for others…

Defying the parameters of definition

Marvelous mixed-up blood

Indian? Yes!

But that’s not all I am

Activist?

Not to some…

I don’t march…

Under their banner

Activist? Yes!

But that’s not all I am

Wife?

That depends…

on who you ask…

Or where we are…

Wife? Yes!

But that’s not all I am

Lesbian?

Not butch…

Not femme…

Criss-cross categories

Late bloomer

Lesbian? Yes!

But that’s not all I am

MotherGrammaLesbianWife

ArtistWriterPhotographer

ActivistIndianTeacherFriend

Don’t LUMP me in your categories

That’s   not   all   I   am  !